I’ve had my ass grabbed by older, powerful men, I’ve had them corner me in inappropriate sexual conversations when I was much younger…— James Van Der Beek (@vanderjames) October 12, 2017
It shows that while women make up the majority of sexual harassment victims, we shouldn’t slip into the belief that the male victim is rare. A recent Drinkaware survey highlighted that one in four 18-24 year old men had been inappropriately touched during a night out. Another case saw one Scottish bar remove the kilt as part of staff uniforms as female patrons kept lifting them up. Men are also less inclined to tell anyone about their experiences. Brooklyn Nine-Nine actor Terry Crews suggested it was because of the belief that it would end their careers. Crews himself had allegedly been groped at a Hollywood function right before his wife’s eyes.
I understand the unwarranted shame, powerlessness & inability to blow the whistle. There’s a power dynamic that feels impossible to overcome— James Van Der Beek (@vanderjames) October 12, 2017
I was going to kick his ass right then— but I thought twice about how the whole thing would appear. (4/cont.)— terrycrews (@terrycrews) October 10, 2017
“240 lbs. Black Man stomps out Hollywood Honcho” would be the headline the next day. (5/cont.)— terrycrews (@terrycrews) October 10, 2017
Echoing his sentiments, Chatelaine’s Rachel Giesse exclaimed: “Men and boys don’t report sexual harassment or abuse for many of the same reasons women and girls don’t: intimidation, shame, fear that they won’t be believed. But for men and boys, there are also the barriers of cultural attitudes about manliness, gender, sexuality and power. “After all, they are supposed be physically strong as well as sexually aggressive. If they are made to do something they don’t want, then the conclusion is that they weren’t tough or masculine enough to resist. “Men and boys are also assumed to be highly sexed and always turned on – a belief that makes it easier to dismiss complaints, particularly if they are abused by women, which is more common than is publicly acknowledged. Men are already less likely than women to seek help for mental health concerns – presenting an act of inappropriate or abusive sex as a punchline or as something to high-five only adds to the stigma.” The concept that a man shouldn’t “show vulnerability and weakness,” she said, is harmful. Classing all men predators against women is just as bad and could have wider-reaching consequences – it could end up impacting women in the recruitment process, with men more anxious about how to best behave in the workplace. Females got a much-needed conversation started and raised shocking awareness around abuse, but now it’s time to discuss the ways in which sexual harassment can be tackled for all. Have you ever been a victim of sexual harassment in the workplace? Perhaps your company has had to deal with the matter? Please contact firstname.lastname@example.org to share what happened, and we will treat all matters disclosed treated with confidentiality. [rb_inline_related]
Only I probably wouldn’t have been able to read it because I WOULD HAVE BEEN IN JAIL. So we left.— terrycrews (@terrycrews) October 10, 2017
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