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Three ways successful people define success and how it will change your perspective

Highly successful people (HSP) arent perfect either, but the big difference is that they dont expect to be! They give themselves permission to make mistakes and experience setbacks.

Then, instead of spiralling down into lethargy and depression, they take a deep breath, figure out what they learned (like when you’re famished, dont stand next to a platter of cookies at a party! Post yourself near the veggies and cold cuts.) Then they re-focus on their outcome and keep going.

What successes have you had And where do you store them In a drawer, scrapbook or old cigar box

Heres a secret I learned by observing HSPs for 20 years. HSPs have a success file in their memory, and on their smartphone or computer. When theyre eating, driving, or relaxing in bed, they rewind to when they woke up and review the successes they had that day and in past days.

Heads up: even when the world acknowledges you, you still have to success file. You have to acknowledge yourself to experience the joy of success!

Successes HSPs included were ate a good breakfast, did my exercise routine, patiently called my childs spelling words, responded to eight phone calls and 23 emails before I left for work. Wait! Those arent successes, you say. But for HSPs they are! They know their big successes came as the result of 1,000s of tiny successes like stopping to buy gas so they werent late for a deal-clenching presentation like the other guy!

Why is remembering your successes so important Because success in your past gives you confidence in your future the self-confidence you need to keep going past setbacks and missteps.

What is success HSPs use a very different definition!For HSPs, success has three essential parts:

(1) Completion

The dictionary says success is accomplishing wealth, respect and fame. But for HSPs it’s far more. Lots of people accomplish lots and lots of things but still dont feel successful. Why Because feeling successful requires an extra step self-acknowledging.

(2) Deletion

For HSPs, success has a vital second part. Success is knowing when enough is enough; when a job, relationship or method isnt working and it’s time to stop; when you’re pushing too long and hard and you need to regain your health, relationships and balance.

Heads up: when you notice the same incompletions occurring over and over, stop and ask yourself: is this a goal I plan to complete Or is this a good idea I have no real intention of completing If so, it’s time to delete that supposed goal and substitute one you are committed to now.

For HSPs success is also

(3) Creation

Using your accumulated knowledge and experience to break through to innovation, to new approaches, products and services. To new ways of living healthy successful lives.

HPSs success file all three parts of success. And you can too!

They set aside a few minutes each day to ask themselves: What did I complete today What did I give up or let go today What did I realise and innovate

Susan Collins is asuccess coach.


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